Friday, October 14, 2016

Jiro Dreams of Sushi - A Documentary



This instagram post from David Beckham triggered a memory about trusting only restaurants which specialize in only doing one thing. Sukibayashi Jiro is the 3-Michelin-Star sushi restaurant of Jiro Ono, the 89 year old chef who's been making sushi since he was nine. It is also the most expensive restaurant per minute of dining because every meal lasts on the average only half an hour and it will cost a customer at a minimum of JPY 30,000 or USD 300; with a waiting list of several months to get a seat. Celebrities and world leaders all flock to this place; with President Barack Obama and Prime Minister Shinzo Abe dining here during Obama's last state visit to Japan. 

I liked this documentary a lot ; I watched it five times last weekend and in typical fashion;  I read anything and everything I can read about Jiro Ono and his passion and commitment to making the perfect sushi; of finding Umami--that perfect balance between the rice and the fish/seafood; that perfect moment equivalent to the exclamation of Aaahhh when you've finally taken a cold shower on a warm and humid day.

This documentary is so beautifully done by David Gelb that it was able to combine a lot of my favourite topics as a foodie; minimalist; and a fan of Japanese culture and way of life. It has also enough conflict to keep the audience engaged. Who knew Sushi making can be this interesting? Trust me, you will never look at sushi in the same way ever again.



Friday, July 31, 2015

#LoveWins and How "Four Weddings and a Funeral" Was Ahead of Its Time

“He was my North, my South, my East and West,
My working week and my Sunday rest,
My noon, my midnight, my talk, my song;
I thought that love would last forever: I was wrong.”
- W.H.  Auden, Funeral Blues


#LoveWins — This was the global trending topic on Twitter the day same-sex marriage became legal on all fifty states in the United States last June 2015.

At that time I remembered that the most beautiful and loving lines ever said in a film (in my opinion) was the one recited during the funeral scene in the 1994 film "Four Weddings and a Funeral" which catapulted Hugh Grant to stardom and dare I say, Rowan Atkinson (yep, Mr. Bean himself) where he played in this film a bumbling priest officiating his first wedding. In this film, the lives and romantic relationships (and mis-adventures) of Hugh Grant and his other proud-to-be single friends are chronicled from Charle's (Hugh Grant's character) point of view.

What was surprising to me at that time was how the concept of same-sex partnership is just casually inserted in the movie without any great fanfare. On the first half of the movie, most of Charles's friends are just getting drunk (or pissed according to the Brits) and the men are just some happy-go-lucky mates. It was only during the funeral that certain relationships are revealed to be far deeper than what they seem. In that scene Matthew's character broke down in tears while eulogising his partner Gareth. That kind of heartbreak can only come from a place of love, sadness, pain and regret. It dawned on everyone at that funeral, that though most of them are proud-to-be-single and not that lucky in love; Matthew and Gareth had always been a "married" couple.

This was in 1994, two years before Larry Page and Sergey Brin founded Google and ten years before it had an IPO and exploded into the world's consciousness. Why is this relevant? Well, Google had to be  invented (and Wikipedia, of course) before I was able to find out the entire poem from which Matthew's eulogy came from. I would not know in 1994 from which book or library I would be able to go and do my research. Works of fiction and literature only came to my attention just by chance. Like when I discovered e.e.cummings' "98 Poems" lying open in one of the tables in the University's Main Library.

Looking back we've really come a long way since 1994.


Thursday, July 16, 2015

Why I Write (a Harper Lee Quote)



Harper Lee, the Pulitzer prize winner and author of one the greatest novels in the world "To Kill A Mockingbird" said this about writing : 

"Writing is the one form of art and endeavour that you cannot do for an audience.You do it for yourself. It's a self-exploratory operation that is endless. A writer must write in order to exorcise, if not her demons, then her 'divine discontent' ".  

And I could not have said it better. 

Monday, June 29, 2015

What it means to be "Kikay"

Pronunciation:  Brit. /ˈkiːkʌɪ, U.S. /ˈkiˌkaɪPhilippine English /ˈkikaj/
Etymology:  < Tagalog kikay, apparently a specific use of the female forename Kikay, hypocoristic form of names ending in -ca (e.g. Francisca).(Show Less)
Philippine English.
A. n.       A flirtatious girl or woman. Also: a girl or woman interested in beauty products and fashion.
B. adj.  Belonging to or characteristic of a kikay. 
Of a girl or woman: interested in beauty products and fashion; stylishly feminine.

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As an homage to the inclusion of this Filipino word into the Oxford English Dictionary, I would like to explain the essence of being Kikay in my life; what it means to me. 

As a woman I've experienced time and time again that before the men in the room will even listen to what I have to say, I would have to look good. Nothing too flashy or vulgar;but I know I have to be well put together. For someone who considers herself a late bloomer, in my early 20s I didn't realize the power that I could wield on people around me if I just took the effort to dress well; to look polished with the right hairstyle and make-up. That when I look good, I am also treated better. 

I learned over the years that my strong personality (and opinions!) turn people off and I needed to soften my persona and though I cannot control people's perception of me, I should be able to use all the available weapons within my arsenal, such clothes and make-up so that they will see me in a different light. 

In time, though, the sharp edges of my personality have softened and I no longer need to try that, hard; I have come to love fashion and make-up, and consider them an outlet of my creativity. A form of self-expression; an art in itself. 

Coco Chanel said it best when she said, and I quote : 
"I don't understand how a woman can leave the house without fixing herself up a little, if only out of politeness.
And then, you never know, maybe that's the day she has a date with destiny. 
And it's best to be as pretty as possible for destiny."

It also reminds me of this character in Liz Gilbert's book, Eat, Pray, Love, Armenia, a glamorous, Brazilian journalist who used to work for the United Nations High Commissioner on Refugees. And she explained very well what it means to be a Brazilian Woman. She explained, "Well, I always tried to look nice and be feminine even in the war zones and refugee camps of Central America. Even in the worst tragedies and crisis there's no reason to add to everyone's misery by looking miserable yourself. That's my philosophy. This is why I always wore make-up and jewelry into the jungle--nothing too extravagant, but maybe just a nice gold bracelet, and some earrings, a little lipstick, good perfume. Just enough to show that I still have my self-respect". 

Stylish      - Check !
Feminine - Check !
Art             - Check !
Self Expression - Check !
Self-Respect - Check !

For a five-letter work, Kikay does pack a punch. So,  what does the essence of being Kikay mean to you ? 

Bob Dylan Chronicles Volume One: Excerpts and Review

"Sometimes the things that you liked the best and that have meant the most to you are the things that meant nothing at all to you when you first heard or saw them." 
      - Bob Dylan, on his whole vision of life


As part of my journey in simplifying my life I am slowly trying to shift from printed material to e-books. In the process I am also looking for a second home for my beloved books. One of those books is the autobiography of Bob Dylan, the musician/folk singer/songwriter; the icon. 

I plan to give my copy to my musician friend TJ because I think / hope that he will be inspired by this book to create great music after reading it. It certainly inspired me to create this blog about my love of reading (and also kind of name the blog after it). In a way the materials that I read do reflect the current state of my mind and where I am in my journey in this life. 

But before I give this book away I must record my thoughts, feelings and insights when I read the book for the first time, after having bought them years ago and most recently re-read it while I was choosing which of my books I plan to give away.  

People say that there are books that you will never read again; either because they are forgettable or they are too emotionally crippling that you would not be able to handle the material again. Well, this is book is neither one of those. Whenever I would try to re-read a passage I would have a new insight and it would feel like that are still so many layers that are yet to be revealed to me. His thoughts on being over the hill is particularly poignant and reminded me of those days when there is like a dark cloud hanging over me that I cannot shake off. 

I bought this book as soon as it came out ten years ago, though I am neither a fan of Bob Dylan nor am I familiar with his music. But I've read from somewhere a good review of the book and promptly went to find it at my favorite local bookstore. 

Without a doubt this book is the most beautifully written biography that I have read in a long time. (And I've read a lot of biographies!). Even though he is relating his life story, it is written with a certain lyrical quality to it that it's almost as if he is singing it to you or at the very least reciting poetry. He keeps you at the edge of your seat because he writes in a non-linear manner that you cannot blink and miss a scene. 

The closest experience I have is like watching the movie Pulp Fiction wherein you need to finish the entire movie before you can connect the dots. That was my first experience with non-linear storytelling and I like it. Maybe it has something to do with my mathematics background that is why I am perfectly fine with it; even think that it is plausible for events to happen like that. 

His writing is so excellent that you are transported to that particular time and space that he is describing. That you are able to see, hear, feel, touch and taste that particular moment in his life that he is writing about. For any writer there is no greater compliment than this. 

Oh and by the way , this book is also a good source of lists of books you need to read, places to go or songs to listen to before you die. 

One thing I do not "like" though, is that the man gives me an inferiority complex as a writer. (But that is another story!) 
  
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Here are some of my favorite bits that would prove the superior quality of his writing:


1. [On his love of reading]: 
   
"The place had an overpowering presence of literature and couldn't help but lose your passion for dumbness. Up until this time I've been raised in a cultural spectrum that had left my mind black with soot."

"I liked the biographies a lot and read part one about Frederick the Great, who, besides being King of Prussia, I was surprised to find out was also a composer."

"I liked the French writer Balzac a lot, read Luck and Leather, and Le Cousin Pons. Balzac was pretty funny. His philosophy is plain and simple, says basically that pure materialism is a recipe for madness. The only true knowledge for Balzac seems to be in superstition. Everything is subject to analysis. ,,. One of his teeth falls out, and he says, 'What does this mean?' He questions everything. His clothes catch fire on a candle. He wonders if fire is a good sign. Balzac is hilarious."

(Ria's Note: I think Balzac is no different than a girl / woman in love. We women tend to analyze every little thing that has been said or shown to us by our object of affection or desire. And that's always hilarious !)

2. [On being original and writing his own songs]: 

"I can't say when it occurred to me to write my own songs. I couldn't have come up with anything comparable or halfway close to the folk song lyrics I was singing to define the way I felt about the world. I guess it happens to you by degrees. You just don't wake up one day and decide that you need to write songs, especially if you're a singer who has plenty of them and you're learning more every day. Opportunities may come along for you to convert something--something that exists into something that didn't yet. "

"It's not like you see songs approaching and invite them in. It's not that easy. You want to write songs that are bigger than life. You want to say something about strange things that have happened to you and understand something and then go past the vernacular... Sometimes you could hear a song and your mind jumps ahead. You see similar patterns in the ways that you were thinking about things. I never looked at songs as either "good" or "bad", only different kinds of good ones."

“A song is like a dream, and you try to make it come true. They’re like strange countries that you have to enter. You can write a song anywhere, in a railroad compartment, on a boat, on horseback—it helps to be moving. Sometimes people who have the greatest talent for writing songs never write any because they are not moving.”

3. [On fame]
“It was impossible now for me to observe anything without being observed. … What kind of alchemy, I wondered, could create a perfume that would make reaction to a person lukewarm, indifferent and apathetic? I wanted to get some."

4. [On being over the hill]

“Wherever I am, I am a 60’s troubadour, a folk-rock relic, a wordsmith from bygone days, a fictitious head of state from a place nobody knows. I’m in the bottomless pit of cultural oblivion. You name it, I can’t shake it.”

“I’ve been on an eighteen month tour with Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers. It would be my last. I had no connection to any kind of inspiration. Whatever was there to begin with had all vanished and shrunk. Tom was at the top of his game and I was at the bottom of mine…. My own songs have become strangers to me, I didn’t have the skill to touch their raw nerves, couldn’t penetrate the surfaces. …There was a hollow singing in my heart and I couldn’t wait to retire and fold the tent. … I was what they called over the hill.”

5. [On starting over]
“[Elliot Roberts] He showed me my upcoming tour schedule and I was disappointed. It was far different than what we have talked about. There were very few of the same towns that I’d played the previous year.  … I told him that this wasn’t what we talked about, that I needed to get back to the same towns that I played the previous year.”

“ ‘You can’t play the same towns every year, nobody’s gonna get an erection over that. You gotta leave the towns alone. Leave ‘em for a while,’ he said.”

“Think of it like you think about Jesse James. There were a lot of bank robbers then, a lot of jail breakers—a lot of holdup men, train robbers…but Jesse James is the only name people remember. He was mythological. You don’t play the same towns every year, you don’t rob the same banks.”

6. [On conceit]
“Conceit is not necessarily a disease. It’s more of a weakness. A conceited person could be set-up easily and brought down accordingly. Let’s face it, a conceited person has a fake sense of self-worth, an inflated opinion of himself. A person like this can be controlled and manipulated completely if you know what buttons to push.”


7. [On his wife]
“The one thing about her that I always loved was that she was never one of those people who thinks that someone else is the answer to their happiness. Me or anybody else. She’s always had her own built-in happiness.”


8. [On falling in love at first sight with girlfriend, Susie]
“Right from the start I couldn’t take my eyes off her. She was the most erotic thing I’d ever seen. Meeting her was like stepping into the tales of 1,001 Arabian nights. She has a smile that could light up a street full of people and was extremely lively, had a particular type of voluptuousness—a Rodin sculpture come to life. She reminded me of a libertine heroine. She was just my type.”

9. [On his musical influences and contemporaries]:

  • [Harry Belafonte]
    • "Harry was that rare type of character that radiates greatness, and you hope that some of it rubs off on you. The man commands respect. You know he never took the easy path, though he could have. "
  • [Mike Seeger]
    • "As for being a folk musician, he was the supreme archetype. He could push a  stake through Dracula's black heart. He was romantic, egalitarian and revolutionary type all at once--he had chivalry in his blood. You couldn't imagine him making a big deal out of anything. "
    • "Being there and seeing him up close, something hit me. It's not as if he just played everything well, he played these songs as good as it was possible to play them. What I had to work at, Mike already had in his genes, in his genetic makeup. Before he was even born, this music had to be in his blood."
    • "He was too good and you can't be 'too good'... In order to be as good as that , you'd just about have to be him, and nobody else... The thought occurred to me that maybe I'd have to write my own folk songs, ones that Mike didn't know."
  • [Ray Gooch] 
    • "Ray had flowing, wavy, blond hair like Jerry Lee Lewis or Billy Graham, the evangelist--the kind of hair that preachers had. The kind that the early rock and roll singers used to imitate and want to look like. The kind that could create a cult."(Ria's Note: I don't know about you; but I want a hair that can start a cult. It doesn't have to be blond, though.) 
    • "Ray was not a guy who had nothing in his mind. He knew what he thought and he knew how to express it, didn't make room in his life for mistakes. He seemed to have some golden grip on reality, didn't sweat the small stuff, quoted the Psalms and slept with a pistol near his bed."
  • [Frank Sinatra's song,  Ebb Tide]
    • "It had never failed to fill me with awe. The lyrics were so mystifying and stupendous. When Frank sang that song, I could hear everything in his voice--death, God and the universe, everything."
  • [Archibald Macleish, American Poet, Writer]
    • "He asked me what I had sacrificed to pursue my dreams. He said the worth of things can't be measured by what they cost but by what they can cost you to get it, that if anything costs you your faith, or your family, then the price is too high and that there are some things that will never wear out."
  • [Lanois]
    • “One thing about Lanois that I liked is that he didn’t want to float on the surface. He didn’t even want to swim. He wanted to jump in and go deep. He wanted to marry a mermaid.”
  • [Woody Guthrie]
    • “The man who’d pointed out the starting place for my identity and destiny—the great Woody Guthrie.”
    • “My Life have never been the same since I’d first heard Woody on a record player in Minneapolis a few years earlier. When I first heard him it was like a million megaton bomb had dropped.”
    • “Woody’s autobiography, Bound for Glory…sang out to me like the radio. Guthrie writes like the whirlwind and you get tripped out on the sound of the words alone. Woody’s got a fierce poetic soul –the poet of hard crust sod and gumbo mud. Guthrie divides the world between those who work and those who don’t and is interested in the liberation of the human race and wants to create a world worth living in.”
  • [Joan Baez]
    • “She was wicked looking—shiny black hair that hung down over the curve of slender hips, drooping lashes, partly raised, no Raggedy Ann doll. The sight of her made me high. All that and then there was her voice. A voice that drove out bad spirits.”
  • [Dave Van Ronk]
    • “He was the one performer I burned to learn particulars from. He was great on records, but in person he was greater…. He turned every folk song into a melodrama, a theatrical piece—suspenseful, down to the last minute. Dave got to the bottom of things. It was like he had an endless supply of poison and I wanted some…couldn’t do without it.”